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Sit down. Breathe. Write. Repeat...An Empty Cup
When Denise told me "No one, I'm senior enough that I'm expected to just get on with it" it sent up a BIG red flare for me. And for Denise. We were discussing just how much time she was having to devote to day-to-day to the well-being of her team....
Selfish – or is it?
When you take that short intake of breath, maybe say a curse word under your breath and then say "Yes, OK of course I will" to yet another request, there's a cost. So many women tell me how overstretched they feel and how the lines between work/home have become...
Easy … or is it?
When we decided to go to Manchester for an art exhibition this week, it would have been so easy to have changed our mind and here are just a few of the reasons. The 500 mile round tripFuel and an overnight stay in a hotel2-days from our 'staycation' breakHounds into...
What was I thinking?
It's so easy to upset or to disconnect with someone when you give your opinion - or a sense of your opinion - too soon. I've found a really useful little word which acknowledges what you've just heard without committing you to what...
Only 10 Minutes
"I'll take that up when I have more time" or "When I'm on my holidays maybe I'll try again" or "I never seem to have enough time to ___" fill in the blank. That was a conversation I had with my VIP Client Group this very week. We were talking...
Simple and hard to do
One of the first things I remember when I went on my 'taster' coaching weekend back in 2005 was about listening. Not listening to respond but listening to understand. It's hard to do when you've been hard wired to listen and respond. What do I mean by...
Good Friends do this
When you get something skewed, wrong, confused do you speak to yourself in a way you'd speak to a good friend? Listening to your way of speaking to yourself is a lifelong quest. My work with corporate career women over the last 15 years has given me...
Excitement can be overrated
"Oh I don't know, it's been OK - nothing exciting" that's often the response my husband Snowy will give me when I ask about his day. Here's the thing about that response, which can be perfunctory and not necessarily thought about... exciting can be...
So What? Then What?
As I listened to my client, let's call her Melissa, I thought to myself "Oh my, how tough it must be to operate like this, no wonder you're feeling stuck." Melissa was explaining to me how she was so fearful of the word "No" that she just didn't put herself forward...
Do you build this in?
t was SO obvious when she said it and even with all my years of experience helping women create and maintain personal boundaries, I missed it for myself! Heyho... "Kay, you've just hosted a 2-day live retreat online and had a birthday celebration a few days...